Second Salsa Lesson

In many ways I was more nervous before our second Salsa lesson than the first:

• I now knew what was expected of me
• I hadn't practised as much as I would have liked
• Would I remember the steps
• Was it just first time lucky

Again I used EFT for all the above and enhanced my performance by visualisation techniques, mixed with EFT.  

It will come as no surprise to learn, that all my anxiety was unfounded. It all went very smoothly and although I couldn't remember some of the steps, I had no anxiety about this at all. I enjoyed the lesson just as much as the first and I'm now hooked. So for the next six weeks all my Sunday nights are booked, although I'm not sure how far or long this will go. But hey! It's new - It's fresh - It's exciting. Whats more it's good exercise and the locals are friendly.

The back of my mind says it's time to get back into some spiritual work though! Food for thought.

Try something new !

Last Sunday evening I was cajoled into starting 'Salsa' classes at our local indoor bowls club. Now I love dancing but I'm no John Travolta - I can hold my own after a couple of beers - I think!
However when it comes to dancing in some sort of order, I usually make an excuse to prop up the bar. I have five left feet and four right, so you can imagine the conversation between my partner Shirley and I last Sunday morning.
I must also inform you of the fact that I abhor walking into a room full of strangers, let alone have dance lessons. Sometimes though you just have to grab the bull by the horns and go for it! So I put on my best bib and tucker and after several rounds of tapping with EFT, we set off.
Well I was astounded, the people there were very warm and friendly and I not only found it easy to learn - I bloody well enjoyed it.
YES I enjoyed it - So much so that as I write this - Shirley is getting ready for our second session. I can only say "Try something new at every opportunity, with as much variation as possible."
And you know what? Every person in that dance class last week was on their sixth lesson - I was under the misapprehension it was the first for all of us.

So dancing shoes on - I'll let you know how it went tomorrow

Wood for the trees

Your business and personal performance

Eric was a lovely man he worked hard everyday of his life. One week’s holiday a year was enough for him; his round of golf on a Sunday morning gave him all the exercise he needed. He didn’t smoke and only had the occasional tipple, the staff canteen kept him alive, the pie and mushy peas were his favourite. OK he was a few pounds over weight but that was to be expected, he was tied to his desk all day. His wife often tried to get him to take a break but Eric always said. ‘I don’t have the time.’ ‘They need me hear.’ ‘I can’t really trust anyone to take over.’

‘Yes! But you need to relax Eric.’ said his wife Mary. ‘Relax.’ Said Eric, ‘I am bloody relaxed, I’ve got the Vat man coming on Monday, half the staff are off sick -  the kids want to go to university; the sales figures are down the pan and all you can think of is holidays and bloody relaxation.

 ‘Relax! - I’m off to the office! I can relax there and don’t send that personal bloody performance coach around again. What a geek he is, tap away stress, bloody idiot, he wants to try running his own business, see if his tapping does him any good then.’

Eric walked out slamming the door behind him.

The hospital; later told Mary, Eric had suffered a massive heart attack and there was nothing they could do to save him. ‘I can’t understand it,’ said Mary. He always kept himself fairly fit, ok he worked hard but he never suffered from any kind of stress.’

Eric died leaving the factory to his son David who immediately sold it for a small fortune. He and his mother Mary now live in Spain and enjoy life to the full - they have a toast to Eric every day just before going to the beach.

Had Eric had the benefit of EFT and a Personal Performance Coach, he may have still been alive and in Spain too.

It takes about 8 seconds to tap! Why take the strain? Call me Baz Chessman if you or any of your friends & colleagues need a hand.

Dance like no one watching

Dance Like No One's Watching 
By : Author Unknown 

We convince ourselves that life will be better after we get married, have a baby, then another. Then, we are frustrated that the kids aren't old enough and we'll be more content when they are. After that we're frustrated that we have teenagers to deal with. We will certainly be happy when they are out of that stage. 

We tell ourselves that our life will be complete when our spouse gets his or her act together, when we get a nicer car, are able to go on a nice vacation, when we retire. The truth is, there's no better time to be happy than right now. If not now, when? 

Your life will always be filled with challenges. It's best to admit this to yourself and decide to be happy anyway. One of my favorite quotes comes from Alfred D Souza. He said, "For a long time it had seemed to me that life was about to begin - REAL LIFE. But there was always some obstacle in the way, something to be gotten through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, a debt to be paid.Then, life would begin. At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my life." 

This perspective has helped me to see that there is no way to happiness. Happiness is the way. 

So, treasure every moment that you have. And treasure it more because you shared it with someone special, special enough to spend your time with... and remember that time waits for no one. Stop waiting until you finish school, until you go back to school, until you lose ten pounds, until you gain ten pounds, until you have have kids, until your kids leave the house, until you start work, until you retire, until you get married, until you get divorced, until Friday night, until Sunday morning, until you get a new car or home, until your car or home is paid off, until spring, until summer, until fall, until winter, until you are off welfare, until the first or fifteenth, until your song comes on, until you've had a drink, until you've sobered up, until you die -- to decide that there 

is no better time than right now to be happy. 

Happiness is a journey, not a destination.

1second can change so many lives

A bloody cat got it's own back on the dog across the road this morning as the dog ran foaming at the mouth straight under my van!
Three grown men in tears - 1 dead dog and the cat purring on the footpath unaware the trauma it had just caused. (Well not really but Im a dog lover you see)
I wouldn't have believed you could kill a large dog stone dead at 15-20 mph but I had. The owner was there and witnessed the whole thing - He said it wasn't my fault but it didn't make me feel any better.
I kept playing the scenario through my mind - Could I have done something? - Was it my fault? - What if it had been a child? However I knew in my heart it wasnt my fault I was doing 15-20mph in a 30 zone. It was just a tragic accident and a beloved pets over excitement. Yes the man should have had the dog on a leash. He knew that and it would have done no one any good to have told him.
I said sorry it was all I could say, I drove around the corner and pulled over still shaking. I telephoned my partner Shirley and started to deal with the remaining guilt & emotion.
Yes I still have the memory and I'm not having the nice relaxing day I'd planned but my emotions are intact and I don't feel guilty anymore.
Even I need EFT in an emergency do you?

Never give up

Sometimes we all get a little despondent with our lot and if were not careful we can soon become  a little maudlin. Well I give you a solution! The next time your feeling down in the dumps and a little bit sorry for yourself.
Go on to the world wide web and put in the search engine wounded British soldiers, I promise you, you will not feel sorry for yourself for long. These brave young lads are putting their lives on the line for us - Yes you and me. Many if lucky enough survive only to become invalids, suffering the most atrocious injuries. However from the clips I've seen, they keep their brave fighting spirit and overcome adversity. Physically anyhow it seems.
The more I watch their stories however, the I more I become aware of an underlying trend. One of emotional trauma, both in themselves and their loved ones. I want to reach out to these brave people and help them with EFT.
If you get the chance help me spread the word, that EFT can help with all kinds of trauma and I'm only a call away.

Garden Therapy

Every now and again I get a chance to do some work in the garden - It's hard back breaking work but it makes me feel on top of the world. I don't know if we always appreciate how great it is to live in the UK. OK I know we are going through some tough times especially anyone wanting to travel by air or anyone unlucky enough to be out of work.

However if you can make an effort to find the good things that surround us you will feel better on the inside and it's amazing how that attracts good things on the outside. Easy for me to say, I've got a full time job but please try it. Look at the everyday things that surround us, take a walk in the park or visit the sea side. Go to the library or visit a museum. There is always some thing you can do for free.

Getting back to basics in the garden gives me the inspiration to go forward with my ideas and dreams regarding work and future. I look at things differently and let go of any negative feelings, just listening to the sound of the many and varied birdsong around me. Makes me want to scream I'm alive and kicking and what's more I'm bloody well enjoying it.

So if you get chance this week, do something different and enjoy yourself.

Regards Barry