Sunday, 4 April 2010
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Saturday, 6 March 2010
What does EFT mean for me
As I wrote this article - ‘Old voices came back to haunt me.’ I stopped and ‘tapped’ on the emotion I was feeling. I was taken aback I thought I’d dealt with these memories a long time ago (After all I’ve been an Emotional Freedom Technique Practitioner since 1997)
My secondary school headmaster, “Chessman you’re lazy & useless, you will never amount to anything, you’ll end up in the gutter just like your father. I want you out of my school now – for good!”
Mr Holroyd the art teacher, “Chessman, you may as well go and join the woodwork class - You’ll never make an artist as long as you live.” Thanks to this man; I didn’t take up art until 1995 when I met Shirley Ann my partner. My first painting hangs over the fireplace in our room, I’ve since taken a foundation course to go on and do a degree in art.
These two voices take me back over 30 years, you may think them trivial, indeed - in relation to some of your sufferings they are. However along with many other negative experiences, they shaped my life. For years I’d had flashbacks & nightmares about these two men, as well as one teacher who threw a cricket ball in my face. My sin was watching two very pretty girls walk by - instead of paying attention.
I relate these issues to emphasise the profound effect our words and actions have on other people. How do you talk to those around you?
In 1997 my life changed immeasurably; Shirley and I went on ‘The cruise of a lifetime,’ with daily workshops available onboard ship. On our third day, we attended a workshop entitled ‘An Introduction to EFT – Emotional Freedom Techniques.’ We arrived to the sight of around sixty people tapping with their fingertips on various points around their head & upper body. I froze at the door, “I’m not going in there, their all barmy!” I whispered. “Oh! Come on – you may just enjoy it?” said Shirley. So! In we went. We were late (My fault) so all the seats were taken apart from some at the front. “Come in - don’t be shy – were all friends here,” said Christine Hardesty from the UK - the workshop presenter. (To whom I owe a debt of enormous gratitude)
I hated meeting strangers or walking into rooms full of people – let alone sitting at the front. My heart was pounding - my hands were clammy, I very nearly walked out. I was sceptical to say the least. Christine must have noticed because she said, “I realise some of you may be feeling apprehensive and sceptical and that’s ok – may I start by asking you all to pick up the sheet of paper in front of you. Please write on it a word or phrase that describes exactly how you are feeling at this moment. Please be specific and also record how intense this feeling is on a scale of 0-10.”
(Ten being the most intense)
I wrote down ‘PANIC – Level 20.’
Christine then asked us to fold up the paper and put it to one side.
She asked for a volunteer to stand out front with her, explaining the EFT procedure as she went along. Meanwhile the rest of us tapped along, saying exactly what they said. After a couple of rounds of tapping she asked us to take out our piece of paper and assess our intensity level now, with whatever we’d written on the paper. I wrote down 4, I felt a little uneasy but nothing like I had earlier. The panic had gone from an intensity level of 20 down to a 4. ‘How the hell did that work?’
Christine explained what EFT is and how it works – also that we had just experienced ‘EFT - Borrowing Benefits.’ ‘Borrowing Benefits,’ is an EFT procedure allowing the whole audience to tap along with one person but gain the benefit for there own issues. I thought, ‘this is mind blowing.’ It means, anyone can sit in an EFT workshop and eradicate their own issues without anyone ever knowing why they’re there. The potential was enormous.
The real ‘Bombshell’ was to come – We did lots of tapping for various issues, using the same method. We were then asked if we had any strange feelings, tension, or headaches? I had this dull ache in the middle of my chest, something that had always been there but I didn’t know why. Once again we wrote on a piece of paper, I wrote ‘Dull – Ache in my chest.’ I recall tapping along with all these strangers when tears started rolling down my face. Avril a helper took me to one side asking, “If she could work on a one to one basis with me.” “Yes please! – I feel so stupid – a grown man crying like a baby – I feel so embarrassed.” You can guess what we tapped on next – feeling stupid – men don’t cry – being embarrassed. We then went back to the ‘Dull ache in my chest,
We tapped on ‘Even though I have this dull ache in my chest and it may be linked to some other trauma – I deeply and completely accept myself and any part I may have played in causing it.’ I gave a deep sigh and felt as if the dull ache had changed somehow – It seemed lighter. We did another round of EFT – ‘Even though I still have some of this lighter feeling in my chest – I deeply and completely accept myself and any part I may have played in causing it.’
THE BOMBSHELL
Suddenly I said, “It wasn’t my fault – It wasn’t my fault, there was nothing I could have done.” “What wasn’t your fault - What do you mean there was nothing you could have done?”
“Maurice,” I said. “My twin brother - he died when we were six weeks old. We both had pneumonia.” We tapped on – guilt – grief – loss – surviving - not being able to do what other twins do, and a host of other issues. I suddenly felt as if a ton weight had been lifted from my shoulders – the feeling was euphoric! I couldn’t believe I’d been carrying this around for nearly 40 years. I knew at that moment I had to learn this wonderful technique. Since that day the feeling in my chest has gone, I’m a much calmer person and I’ve learned to like myself.
I didn’t realise at the time but I’d been suffering from PTSD (Post traumatic Stress Disorder) since the death of my brother.
PTSD is complex, each case being unique. It can occur immediately after a traumatic event or some time later, sometimes years. Sometimes we’re not be aware of it - at other times it’s debilitating. In the first ‘World War’ hundreds of innocent soldiers were shot for coward-ace, we now know most of them had ‘Shell-shock’ or as it is now known PTSD.
However! PTSD is the end result – NOT THE CAUSE OF THE PROBLEM! The true cause is a ‘disruption in the body’s energy meridians’ these disruptions happen after a traumatic experience. These disruptions result in physical or emotional issues sometime in your life. EFT restores the balance in your meridians – (Akin to replacing a fuse in an electrical circuit.) This in turn results in the relief of your illness whether physical or emotional.*
The real secret to successful EFT is an intuitive practitioner who empathises with the client. I’ve spent the last 13 years perfecting my use of EFT so I can take it to the world – I’ve changed career & helped hundreds of clients, family & friends to eradicate physical & emotional trauma.
My passion is to have EFT available to all on the frontline
*(Please note: A traumatic event to one person may not be to another – therefore more than one person can experience the same traumatic event – but only one may develop a problem.)
P.S. This quote by Eric Robins, MD captures the essence of EFT:
My secondary school headmaster, “Chessman you’re lazy & useless, you will never amount to anything, you’ll end up in the gutter just like your father. I want you out of my school now – for good!”
Mr Holroyd the art teacher, “Chessman, you may as well go and join the woodwork class - You’ll never make an artist as long as you live.” Thanks to this man; I didn’t take up art until 1995 when I met Shirley Ann my partner. My first painting hangs over the fireplace in our room, I’ve since taken a foundation course to go on and do a degree in art.
These two voices take me back over 30 years, you may think them trivial, indeed - in relation to some of your sufferings they are. However along with many other negative experiences, they shaped my life. For years I’d had flashbacks & nightmares about these two men, as well as one teacher who threw a cricket ball in my face. My sin was watching two very pretty girls walk by - instead of paying attention.
I relate these issues to emphasise the profound effect our words and actions have on other people. How do you talk to those around you?
In 1997 my life changed immeasurably; Shirley and I went on ‘The cruise of a lifetime,’ with daily workshops available onboard ship. On our third day, we attended a workshop entitled ‘An Introduction to EFT – Emotional Freedom Techniques.’ We arrived to the sight of around sixty people tapping with their fingertips on various points around their head & upper body. I froze at the door, “I’m not going in there, their all barmy!” I whispered. “Oh! Come on – you may just enjoy it?” said Shirley. So! In we went. We were late (My fault) so all the seats were taken apart from some at the front. “Come in - don’t be shy – were all friends here,” said Christine Hardesty from the UK - the workshop presenter. (To whom I owe a debt of enormous gratitude)
I hated meeting strangers or walking into rooms full of people – let alone sitting at the front. My heart was pounding - my hands were clammy, I very nearly walked out. I was sceptical to say the least. Christine must have noticed because she said, “I realise some of you may be feeling apprehensive and sceptical and that’s ok – may I start by asking you all to pick up the sheet of paper in front of you. Please write on it a word or phrase that describes exactly how you are feeling at this moment. Please be specific and also record how intense this feeling is on a scale of 0-10.”
(Ten being the most intense)
I wrote down ‘PANIC – Level 20.’
Christine then asked us to fold up the paper and put it to one side.
She asked for a volunteer to stand out front with her, explaining the EFT procedure as she went along. Meanwhile the rest of us tapped along, saying exactly what they said. After a couple of rounds of tapping she asked us to take out our piece of paper and assess our intensity level now, with whatever we’d written on the paper. I wrote down 4, I felt a little uneasy but nothing like I had earlier. The panic had gone from an intensity level of 20 down to a 4. ‘How the hell did that work?’
Christine explained what EFT is and how it works – also that we had just experienced ‘EFT - Borrowing Benefits.’ ‘Borrowing Benefits,’ is an EFT procedure allowing the whole audience to tap along with one person but gain the benefit for there own issues. I thought, ‘this is mind blowing.’ It means, anyone can sit in an EFT workshop and eradicate their own issues without anyone ever knowing why they’re there. The potential was enormous.
The real ‘Bombshell’ was to come – We did lots of tapping for various issues, using the same method. We were then asked if we had any strange feelings, tension, or headaches? I had this dull ache in the middle of my chest, something that had always been there but I didn’t know why. Once again we wrote on a piece of paper, I wrote ‘Dull – Ache in my chest.’ I recall tapping along with all these strangers when tears started rolling down my face. Avril a helper took me to one side asking, “If she could work on a one to one basis with me.” “Yes please! – I feel so stupid – a grown man crying like a baby – I feel so embarrassed.” You can guess what we tapped on next – feeling stupid – men don’t cry – being embarrassed. We then went back to the ‘Dull ache in my chest,
We tapped on ‘Even though I have this dull ache in my chest and it may be linked to some other trauma – I deeply and completely accept myself and any part I may have played in causing it.’ I gave a deep sigh and felt as if the dull ache had changed somehow – It seemed lighter. We did another round of EFT – ‘Even though I still have some of this lighter feeling in my chest – I deeply and completely accept myself and any part I may have played in causing it.’
Suddenly I said, “It wasn’t my fault – It wasn’t my fault, there was nothing I could have done.” “What wasn’t your fault - What do you mean there was nothing you could have done?”
“Maurice,” I said. “My twin brother - he died when we were six weeks old. We both had pneumonia.” We tapped on – guilt – grief – loss – surviving - not being able to do what other twins do, and a host of other issues. I suddenly felt as if a ton weight had been lifted from my shoulders – the feeling was euphoric! I couldn’t believe I’d been carrying this around for nearly 40 years. I knew at that moment I had to learn this wonderful technique. Since that day the feeling in my chest has gone, I’m a much calmer person and I’ve learned to like myself.
I didn’t realise at the time but I’d been suffering from PTSD (Post traumatic Stress Disorder) since the death of my brother.
PTSD is complex, each case being unique. It can occur immediately after a traumatic event or some time later, sometimes years. Sometimes we’re not be aware of it - at other times it’s debilitating. In the first ‘World War’ hundreds of innocent soldiers were shot for coward-ace, we now know most of them had ‘Shell-shock’ or as it is now known PTSD.
However! PTSD is the end result – NOT THE CAUSE OF THE PROBLEM! The true cause is a ‘disruption in the body’s energy meridians’ these disruptions happen after a traumatic experience. These disruptions result in physical or emotional issues sometime in your life. EFT restores the balance in your meridians – (Akin to replacing a fuse in an electrical circuit.) This in turn results in the relief of your illness whether physical or emotional.*
The real secret to successful EFT is an intuitive practitioner who empathises with the client. I’ve spent the last 13 years perfecting my use of EFT so I can take it to the world – I’ve changed career & helped hundreds of clients, family & friends to eradicate physical & emotional trauma.
My passion is to have EFT available to all on the frontline
*(Please note: A traumatic event to one person may not be to another – therefore more than one person can experience the same traumatic event – but only one may develop a problem.)
P.S. This quote by Eric Robins, MD captures the essence of EFT:
"Some day the medical profession will wake up and realize that unresolved emotional issues are the main cause of 85% of all illnesses. When they do, EFT will be one of their primary healing tools .... as it is for me."- Eric Robins, MD -
Thursday, 4 March 2010
Internet revolution
Did you know that approx 1.7 billion people use the internet on a daily basis, imagine selling them all something for a penny? In the UK alone 10 million of us don't use the internet, know nothing about it or don't have access. I've been using the web for 10 years or so and I can't believe there are so many people who are unaware of it's versitility. My partners sons were very familiar with computers at an early age, it was second nature to them. I new nothing about computers or the internet, I was 45 and felt very awkward when they discussed terms I didn't understand - Wi Fi - Google - Email - Gigabytes and so on.
It was the embarassment ( The feeling of incompetence ) that gave me the urge to learn more. 'I'll show the little buggers' said I. Little - LOL.They were over 20 years old. I decided to enroll at a local night school on a basic 'Learn to use a PC' coarse - I've never looked back. I can now design websites, send emails and search the world wide web. In fact the first thing I do when I arrive home from work is turn on my PC.
I've a brother who lives in Canada whom I can speak to on a daily basis by web cam, it's amazing! If you know someone who is apprehensive about computers or the world wide web please encourage them to learn - it's not as frightening as they may think.
One of the most beneficial aspects of the internet has got to be keeping in touch with friends and family. Just imagine how many of our old folk sit night after night, lonely, afraid or bored. How good would it be for all of us to be able to keep in touch with them by web cam? My father has Dementia, so he wouldn't be able to use a computer at all. However I'm considering bying one to put in his flat so I can make sure he's ok on a night time when he's on his own.
Yes I think the invention of the internet is one of the most important steps forward in history. I wonder where it will end - I'd love to come back in a hundred years and take a peek!
Bye for now.
Monday, 1 March 2010
!st March - Spring is in the air!
Well! What a glorious day we've had today in East Riding of Yorkshire, I hope the 1st of March herald's the start of Spring. I work outside all day and I love it, but I have to say even I've had enough frost & snow to last me for a while.
I'm often asked which season I prefer and in all honesty I enjoy them all, Spring brings new life to our countryside & gardens. Summer has balmy warm days when the Sun makes us feel alive and refreshed. Autumn has a vivid array of colours and reminds us its time to stock up on Winter fuel. Winter then backs up the year and although it has some miserable cold wet days the scenery is still astounding with beautiful snow cast hills.
Until I started to write this piece I really believed Autumn was my favorite season. But no! I like them all. I also believe we are priviliged in the UK to have such diversity around us, most people walk bye and never notice what's around them. Where else in the world can you find such a vast amount of plant and animal life?
So! I hope this is the start of Spring - time to plant and grow - Time to put plans into operation - It will be Winter before we can blink.
Pass this on to a few of your friends. See if you can get them to look at the good in this country instead of the bad. I'm trying to have my glass half full and you know what I feel lots better for it!
Until next time bfn
Sunday, 28 February 2010
Man or a mouse
I care passionately about people - I want to help the world - I cry at lassie - Am I a man or a mouse? Seeing cruelty to people or animals upsets me for days - War - murder - rape - Injustice! Sometimes i hate this world, I want to love and protect every one - I know that's not possible I'm not powerful enough to do that!
These are some of the things that go through my mind on a regular day - For years I kept my feelings hidden - I covered them in anger and pushed the world aside. I hurt the ones I love because I was scared to lose them - not physically but maybe emotionally. I've pretended for years to be something I'm not - I lived behind the mask of a hard faced man who could handle anything - LOL
Who was I trying to kid - I'm as soft as putty - I couldn't fight my way out of a paper bag
Guess what? I got so engrossed in this blog I forgot about the pan I'd put on the stove in the kitchen (Luckily on a low power) The pan is now black and I'm late cooking tea for Shirley Ann my partner who is working today -Sunday) It was Shirley who first introduced me to an EFT workshop back in 1997. That day changed my life.
I still want to help the world but I do it in a much nicer, calmer way, I also tap on all the things above every day. Believe me the power of EFT is unbelievable - try it yourself but don't look for short term improvements. (I'm not saying that there are not very fast results because there are. I've had clients recover from an issue so fast they didn't believe they'd ever had it.) How ever I want you to call this 'MY PERSONAL PLAN FOR A HAPPIER LIFE'
Make yourself a tapping list of the most important feelings or emotions you have - Good and bad - don't hold back you already know all you need to know about yourself. As you use the EFT procedure you will remember more - your subconcious mind will bring them back to you.
Your subconcious mind knows whats good for you - trust it!
Saturday, 27 February 2010
Control your emotions and play better sport
If sports people learned how to control their emotions and channel them into positive behavour - they would have the upper hand nine times out of ten. They would win more games and stay on the field of play longer. It's big money - When a premiership footballer is red carded and misses the next couple of games it costs him and his club a small fortune. How many times do you see this happen? After all the training, practise and positive coaching they snap and end up with their head in their hands.
There is no way this needs to happen - If the're taught to use EFT
I help sports people to control their emotions and remain focused under pressure - I use EFT - relaxation and visualisation techniques.
It takes 7 seconds to tap with EFT - 7 seconds to stay on the pitch and remain in control. Why would anyone not want to do it? I have short cut techniques that people can use in front of their team mates - before taking a penalty - after being fouled - before and during a game.
It takes 7 seconds to remain calm - 7 seconds to focus - 7 seconds to win
To find out more please visit www.barrychessman.com
Remember 7 seconds to tap and remain calm in any situation - Tap on everything I do
Bye for now and have a great weekend
There is no way this needs to happen - If the're taught to use EFT
I help sports people to control their emotions and remain focused under pressure - I use EFT - relaxation and visualisation techniques.
It takes 7 seconds to tap with EFT - 7 seconds to stay on the pitch and remain in control. Why would anyone not want to do it? I have short cut techniques that people can use in front of their team mates - before taking a penalty - after being fouled - before and during a game.
It takes 7 seconds to remain calm - 7 seconds to focus - 7 seconds to win
To find out more please visit www.barrychessman.com
Remember 7 seconds to tap and remain calm in any situation - Tap on everything I do
Bye for now and have a great weekend
Friday, 26 February 2010
Relaxation
Relaxation or meditation is one of the most important aspects of my personal life, it keeps me balanced, refreshed and clear minded. When I first meditated around twenty years ago, I just couldn't get the hang of visualisation or relaxatoin. I was more like a coiled spring waiting to move on to the next thing in my life. It was about six months before I fully fully relaxed and appreciated the value of it.
Shirley Ann my partner introduced me to relaxation and she has a barrow load of patience believe me, I was not an easy student to have. However her patience paid off and I'm eternally grateful to her. So my reasons for using meditation are of a selfish nature, I want to enhance my life.
In fact, I now describe Meditation & relaxation as visual relaxation because many people get confused with the Buddist version of meditation. I tried the Buddist way and very nice people they are but it was not for me, their version of meditation is more rigid in the fact that you're supposed to concentrate on one point rather than letting your mind wander as I do.
I go through a relaxation technique and then visualise a nice image such as a forest walk or a walk on the beach, somewhere that I feel safe. I then imagine taking a seat in that image and before you know it I've either fallen asleep or enjoyed a vision in my minds eye. Usually this vision is in colour, vivid and clear. It seems very real and I awake refreshed and ready for what is in store that day.
If I have a problem or I'm starting something new or need reassurance, I imagine asking the question in my head while I'm relaxed in this wonderful state. The best way I can describe this state of relaxation is to say it feels just as if I'm in a nice warm bath, cosy, safe and warm. Usually when I awake or bring my attention back to the room I'm in, I may or may not have an answer to my problem but I always feel I can face what ever I have to do in a calm, controlled manner.
Visual relaxation is the key to running a balanced lifestyle, reducing stress and ill health and using vision to see the pitfalls that lie ahead at work, sport or play.
If you have an interest in learning to relax contact us through our website @ http://www.barrychessman.com/
PS: If you think you cannot visualise or imagine anything try closing your eyes and imagine your own front door. Can you see it? What colour is it? Where is the letter box?
If you can see in your minds eye ant of these things you can go on to enjoy the sheer joy of visual relaxation classes.
Bye for now and keep warm it's cold today. (Well apart from Shirley & my mate Steve who are never cold - bless em!)
Shirley Ann my partner introduced me to relaxation and she has a barrow load of patience believe me, I was not an easy student to have. However her patience paid off and I'm eternally grateful to her. So my reasons for using meditation are of a selfish nature, I want to enhance my life.
In fact, I now describe Meditation & relaxation as visual relaxation because many people get confused with the Buddist version of meditation. I tried the Buddist way and very nice people they are but it was not for me, their version of meditation is more rigid in the fact that you're supposed to concentrate on one point rather than letting your mind wander as I do.
I go through a relaxation technique and then visualise a nice image such as a forest walk or a walk on the beach, somewhere that I feel safe. I then imagine taking a seat in that image and before you know it I've either fallen asleep or enjoyed a vision in my minds eye. Usually this vision is in colour, vivid and clear. It seems very real and I awake refreshed and ready for what is in store that day.
If I have a problem or I'm starting something new or need reassurance, I imagine asking the question in my head while I'm relaxed in this wonderful state. The best way I can describe this state of relaxation is to say it feels just as if I'm in a nice warm bath, cosy, safe and warm. Usually when I awake or bring my attention back to the room I'm in, I may or may not have an answer to my problem but I always feel I can face what ever I have to do in a calm, controlled manner.
Visual relaxation is the key to running a balanced lifestyle, reducing stress and ill health and using vision to see the pitfalls that lie ahead at work, sport or play.
If you have an interest in learning to relax contact us through our website @ http://www.barrychessman.com/
PS: If you think you cannot visualise or imagine anything try closing your eyes and imagine your own front door. Can you see it? What colour is it? Where is the letter box?
If you can see in your minds eye ant of these things you can go on to enjoy the sheer joy of visual relaxation classes.
Bye for now and keep warm it's cold today. (Well apart from Shirley & my mate Steve who are never cold - bless em!)
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