Man or a mouse

I care passionately about people - I want to help the world - I cry at lassie - Am I a man or a mouse? Seeing cruelty to people or animals upsets me for days - War - murder - rape - Injustice! Sometimes i hate this world, I want to love and protect every one - I know that's not possible I'm not powerful enough to do that!

These are some of the things that go through my mind on a regular day - For years I kept my feelings hidden - I covered them in anger and pushed the world aside. I hurt the ones I love because I was scared to lose them - not physically but maybe emotionally. I've pretended for years to be something I'm not - I lived behind the mask of a hard faced man who could handle anything - LOL

Who was I trying to kid - I'm as soft as putty - I couldn't fight my way out of a paper bag

Guess what? I got so engrossed in this blog I forgot about the pan I'd put on the stove in the kitchen (Luckily on a low power) The pan is now black and I'm late cooking tea for Shirley Ann my partner who is working today -Sunday) It was Shirley who first introduced me to an EFT workshop back in 1997. That day changed my life.

I still want to help the world but I do it in a much nicer, calmer way, I also tap on all the things above every day. Believe me the power of EFT is unbelievable - try it yourself but don't look for short term improvements. (I'm not saying that there are not very fast results because there are. I've had clients recover from an issue so fast they didn't believe they'd ever had it.) How ever I want you to call this 'MY PERSONAL PLAN FOR A HAPPIER LIFE'

Make yourself a tapping list of the most important feelings or emotions you have - Good and bad - don't hold back you already know all you need to know about yourself. As you use the EFT procedure you will remember more - your subconcious mind will bring them back to you.

Your subconcious mind knows whats good for you - trust it!

Control your emotions and play better sport

If sports people learned how to control their emotions and channel them into positive behavour - they would have the upper hand nine times out of ten. They would win more games and stay on the field of play longer. It's big money - When a premiership footballer is red carded and misses the next couple of games it costs him and his club a small fortune. How many times do you see this happen? After all the training, practise and positive coaching they snap and end up with their head in their hands.
There is no way this needs to happen - If the're taught to use EFT

I help sports people to control their emotions and remain focused under pressure - I use EFT - relaxation and visualisation techniques.


It takes 7 seconds to tap with EFT - 7 seconds to stay on the pitch and remain in control. Why would anyone not want to do it? I have short cut techniques that people can use in front of their team mates - before taking a penalty - after being fouled - before and during a game.


It takes 7 seconds to remain calm - 7 seconds to focus - 7 seconds to win


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Remember 7 seconds to tap and remain calm in any situation - Tap on everything I do
Bye for now and have a great weekend

Relaxation

Relaxation or meditation is one of the most important aspects of my personal life, it keeps me balanced, refreshed and clear minded. When I first meditated around twenty years ago, I just couldn't get the hang of visualisation or relaxatoin. I was more like a coiled spring waiting to move on to the next thing in my life. It was about six months before I fully fully relaxed and appreciated the value of it.

Shirley Ann my partner introduced me to relaxation and she has a barrow load of patience believe me, I was not an easy student to have. However her patience paid off and I'm eternally grateful to her. So my reasons for using meditation are of a selfish nature, I want to enhance my life.

In fact, I now describe Meditation & relaxation as visual relaxation because many people get confused with the Buddist version of meditation. I tried the Buddist way and very nice people they are but it was not for me, their version of meditation is more rigid in the fact that you're supposed to concentrate on one point rather than letting your mind wander as I do.

I go through a relaxation technique and then visualise a nice image such as a forest walk or a walk on the beach, somewhere that I feel safe. I then imagine taking a seat in that image and before you know it I've either fallen asleep or enjoyed a vision in my minds eye. Usually this vision is in colour, vivid and clear. It seems very real and I awake refreshed and ready for what is in store that day.

If I have a problem or I'm starting something new or need reassurance, I imagine asking the question in my head while I'm relaxed in this wonderful state. The best way I can describe this state of relaxation is to say it feels just as if I'm in a nice warm bath, cosy, safe and warm. Usually when I awake or bring my attention back to the room I'm in, I may or may not have an answer to my problem but I always feel I can face what ever I have to do in a calm, controlled manner.

Visual relaxation is the key to running a balanced lifestyle, reducing stress and ill health and using vision to see the pitfalls that lie ahead at work, sport or play.

If you have an interest in learning to relax contact us through our website @ http://www.barrychessman.com/


PS: If you think you cannot visualise or imagine anything try closing your eyes and imagine your own front door. Can you see it? What colour is it? Where is the letter box?
If you can see in your minds eye ant of these things you can go on to enjoy the sheer joy of visual relaxation classes.
Bye for now and keep warm it's cold today. (Well apart from Shirley & my mate Steve who are never cold - bless em!)

Holidays

Isn't it amazing how fast time geos by - I've just had four days off work to get some stuff done at home and although I've got some of it done, I'm rushing around trying to finish it all before Monday when I'm back at work. I'm sure as we all get older time goes faster - Or is it that we suddenly realise our own mortality and want to acheive our goals because the clock is ticking.

God I'd love to able to do it all again - Learn by my mistakes - change my pathway. But wait! I wouldn't be who I am would I? I wouldn't have the great friends I've met along the way - I may not have had two great kids and grandchildren. I maybe wouldn't have met my partner and soon to be wife who I love so much.

Shirley has enriched my life so much in the last 15 years and I wouldn't change that for the world. No I think I'll accept what I have and enjoy it. I consider myself a very, very lucky man to have achieved what I have and have the family and friends I hold so dear.

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I feel all warm inside now - I hope I've made you feel a little warmer as well.

Until next time love & light to you all

Friday's are precious!

Ever since I started work as a young 15 year old, Fridays have been special:

• It's pay day
• It's the end of the week
• It's the beginning of the weekend
• Friday is my obligatory night out
• Relax have much beer and meet new friends
• Lay in bed on Saturday morning - Hung over!
• Stay up late and watch telly - Oh it's Monday - What happened to the weekend?

Fast forward 40 years:

• I get paid by the month - direct debit
• I'm tired after a hard weeks work
• The grass needs cutting - Bedroom needs painting - The Garage needs cleaning and on and on!
• It's too cold to go out
• My friends are all in bed
• I have to be up early in the morning
• I'll be in bed by 11pm - Oh it's Monday - What happened to the weekend?

I always had a dream that by 50 I would employ a gardener/decorator/house keeper and do nothing. Which reminds me of a rich man driving through South Africa in his Rolls Royce. As he rounds a corner he spots a man sitting in the shade of an old tree chewing a piece of grass. "Hey," he shouts. "You wanna get off your lazy arse and get a job, earn sum money and become rich like me." "Then you can drive around and do what ya like." The man takes the grass out of his mouth and says "I'm doing it man - I'm doing it!" and goes back to chewing his grass.

My point really is: What ever you do - do what you most enjoy. What ever gives you the greatest pleasure because from 15 to 50 has gone by in a flash. I've spent most of the time chasing dreams instead of enjoying what I have. That has sadly caused me a lot of heartache - from now on I'm going to enjoy the nice things in life!

See ya soon

Driving

I used to look forward to driving, I found it relaxing. I did a lot of thinking while driving and I could put my music on as loud as I wanted. The only thing I offended was the broken speakers every few months, well maybe not broken but certainly warped. The scenery was interesting and you could put your foot down within reason on relatively quiet roads.

Not anymore, 40 MPH restrictions, 40 MPH lorries, 20 MPH white knuckled drivers who should have given up and used public transport long ago. Oh and foriegn drivers who should never be allowed off the ferry, not to mention the army of school runs who have a hair appointment on their way home and God help you if you hinder them.

Which idiot decided lorries should only be allowed to do 40 MPH and speed restrictions save lives. Absolute rubbish! Every day thousands of drivers become frustrated at being stuck for miles behind a fleet of slow moving lorries. Oh and the odd farm idiots driving tractors at 10 MPH, oblivious to all behind them. (When I was farming I was told - If more than 6 vehicles were behind I should pull off and let them pass.) Now it's lets see how many peoples days I can screw up.

I work 23 miles from home - There are 14 speed restrictions on the 23 mile stretch, It used to take me 20 minutes to get to work now it's 1 hour 20 minutes if I'm lucky. The do gooders who have put restrictions on otherwise careful drivers will tell you that statistics prove they are correct. However I know someone who is a statistition and they will tell you, you can make statistics look as you want.

All that happens is people get frustrated and overtake in dangerous places, boy racers drive at night when the speed van has gone home and the only people who get speeding fines are commuters going to and from work. (Another government tax)

No Sir! Driving is no longer a pleasure - mobile phones have been banned rightly or wrongly. Yet I beg the question - How many people have been killed or seriously injured because they were more concerned with concentrating on their speedometer than on the road?

Ah well! Thats got that off my chest and it will probably change nothing - but I feel a lot better and I'm off to tap on all the above. Oh sorry by tapping I mean EFT Emotional Freedom Technique
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Drive safely - ttfn.

Emotions

If I said you could knock 4/5 strokes off of your golf score by learning to control your emotions - Would you be interested?